"The Viscious Cycle"

What do you do when you find yourself going through the same thing over and over again? When you keep making the same mistakes. I call this "The Vicious Cycle". Its a cycle of continuous hurt, continuous pain and no pain reliever. It seems like every time you enter a new relationship with a new person, you experience the same hurt you had before. The famous question I ask is "WHY ?"
I believe God allows things to happen for a reason. I believe there is something you need to learn that you havent learned yet. That is why you keep going through the same thing. The same cycle. I learned in my relationship with my husband that when I opened myself up to take a risk, I learned what Love is all about. I attracted someone to Love me and I trusted God to protect my heart from hurt in that relationship. I cant imagine my life without my husband. He helps me push when its too hard. He shows me my strengths when I feel weak. We all deserve to experience real Love.
So in the words of someone near and dear to me, "Lets get to the root of this!"

What is the root? Why do you continue to allow the same cycle of things to happen? There is a very important missing peice you can't see yet.
Fear is the root of many problems. Fear is the number one thing that can cause the cycle to continue in your life.
For example: Those that dont pour their heart into a relationship because of Fear of loving someone and getting hurt. Or those that have the fear of being rejected by the person your in love with. There is even a fear of rejecting the person that fell in love with you. We get scared of having a successful relationship because we don't know what to expect and never experienced it before. Maybe we never even saw good examples of Love in the relationships of people around us as children. As a result, we matured into adults with negative images of what we thought a relationship should be like. What ever your situation may be, prayer changes things!

A friend recently told me she believes her root is Insecurity. We discussed the fact that her insecurity is probably why she keeps ending up with the same type of men. Shes settling for less. Shes also afraid that a better type of man wouldn't be satisfied with her and afraid that she would not be able to spark his interest. The root here? Fear.
The first thing is to try to develop a relationship with your Heavenly Father! He knows what you desire so if you discuss this issue with him, you will find relief. I told my friend, God knows her boyfriend better than her boyfriend knows his self. Ask God to reveal to you if hes the one.

The second thing to do is to learn to LOVE YOURSELF. My grandmother will always say "How can anybody Luv U and U dont even Luv Yo Self". LOL. Once we learn to Love ourselves, then we will certainly attract people who can easily fall in love with us. Look yourself in the mirror everyday and begin to tell yourself everything you love about yourself. Every time you hear something negative, dismiss it and tell yourself a couple more things thats good about you. Keep doing this until you honestly believe it. Its not about being conceded its about being confident.

God may have allowed the cycle for you to get frustrated with making the same mistakes. So that you will search for the missing peices within you. He wants you to reach your goals. You just gotta trust him...

God First, Then Theres You, Then Everybody Else!
~Emeliyeh~